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RUMORS AND TRUTHS

My standing as a writer here is:

For those whom would like to write opposite me, there are a few things to first take into consideration before getting frustrated or angry. My time is shared for a few reasons. I run a game here and usually just do the things to keep it maintained myself, so I know they get done in a timely fashion and if not, no one else to blame. I don't mind. If someone offers to help be certain you have said time to offer, not just good wishes....it is far more frustrating to wait on someone else whom doesn't get around to said offer,  than doing something myself. I write with a few players here in various capacities. I find time for my commitments, all one has to do is ask for time if particular time is needed. I try to roleplay with all even if I'm under a character that is with another, you will find me 98% of the time in a public room and not just private. Although situations call for private sessions, especially sessions for storylines (which usually includes a few others), I don't believe in spending all my time off with just one other.

 

Others here like to roleplay with various other writers too, doesn't have to be one of commitment....it also allows time for all those here to interact with each other. They are not just abandoned to sit in a public room alone because the other writers are all off selfishly to themselves all the time in private ones. So, anyone wishing to write opposite one of my characters has to go with that understanding, time will be made but it will not be an everyday, all day occurrence. If your one that especially has only one character you devote all your time to, the suggestion is to find another writer that is of the same mind and situation. I am not judging viewpoints, I respect other's and expect mine to be respected too. One can always agree to disagree. I have had the situation where one told me my situation was acceptable then wanted more and more time of which I could not give on demand, then became disgruntled...some going as far then to slander over it.

 

My characters if gotten with anyone don't abandon them just because 'the romance is over' (not getting into ooc reasons some have been). I have perfectly workable situations were certain couples are not played for lengthy times but....I am writing still with the other writers under other characters. So the real question is, which is more important? To write under a certain character or to write with certain other writers? The couples are living the everyday mundane things and not assumed to have abandoned each other. Do not assume if a character of mine is not played in a while, either I have abandoned them or the other player has abandoned me. Although, more often if such were the case, mine were abandoned. If I feel that is the case (at least in the past, not now with the writers I write with), I move my character on if I wish to continue playing them.

 

For me it is writing, to explore various types of characters in this process. I am not here to become someone's exclusive partner. I am here to write with all and some more selectively (of like mind in this environment). I have a lot of characters, yes I do! There are a few reasons for this and the main one is: many were developed as an ongoing development of this game I created. It adds to its history. I play characters as needed or the mood so inclines. Some you might not see for awhile and then back again. Some are only taken out as needed for storylines. Most of these characters are single and remain thus so they are not committed and expected to play. There is reasoning behind my 'madness'. Any writer of books has new heroes and heroines to explore in new stories....mine are ones that just add to Heathfield's rich history. Now, sometimes these characters do end up with committed with another, but one that agrees and has a like standpoint.

 

Now, the only problem I do have is playing characters and others gain an interest in them as a possible 'mate'. I don't feel I need to go around broadcasting every character I play to anyone whom even looks at them. Way to figure it out (and for other writers here whom write under the same standings as me, there are a few in this game whom play many) is a character that shows no more interest than platonic interaction (even if some teasing is involved). A character that is here sporadically, usually is played by one that plays a few. There is no reason not to interact and have a good time with them when here....that's the idea of them. To 'want more'....remember comes on your end, not necessarily theirs so don't blame them if they are not fulfilling what you wish to happen or be. If one of mine gains an interest, then I would talk to the player ooc on my situation or at least to show whom does play the character and see if it is feasible or best avoided.

 

Even with the discrepancies of OOC vs. IC....OOC does have its place where IC is concerned. I personally will not place my character with another's that I cannot get along with the player (even if IC the characters get along) or that player constantly then harasses me over time, other characters I play and time spent there, needing a lot of attention, wont play their character unless mine is around ...the list could go on..... I will just not role-play in a 'committed' way with such players. I don't need harassment here over writing and my time. I do not belong to anyone here. No one *owns* another here nor their time. I do have a commitment to this game I created and that will always come first. I do have a commitment to other writers I place characters with.

Recent Rumors...

The players here play a multitude of characters both male and female -- Yes they do! The reason for this is as stated above, we are writers here and writers keep exploring challenges in the writing field by trying various different kinds of characters. I do not play just one character as some kind of extended life here, nor with just one other writer in the same idea. I also don't throw away my creations even if not played all the time. I don't feel I need to play out the mundane of life as if living that too via my character. They are always there to take out and refresh or as needed for an SL that comes up. For me, many of mine were created for SLs and accumulated over the years. Most of mine are single and I have no goals to get them with others. Those I am committed to now have the same views, if more than one is here we usually play non committed characters in a group out instead of me off with just one and the others abandoned. I make time for all in being around live under one of my characters even if some don't know they are mine in particular. I make time for all in general and in particular. If someone wants a session in particular, time will be arranged. I don't go chasing down players to commit them to something after running the idea by them. I leave it up to them after that point.

I push the buttons and pull the strings of players here -- Ick! No I don't. I do not claim responsibility for others' actions, stop trying to blame me! Ask them instead. There have been times another player did something to say protect one of mine, as an example idea, but if so it was purely a decision of their own. Another example: I may not like a player another player I roleplay with writes with too. I have never asked them to stop writing with this other or make such demands like I wont continue with them if they continue to write with so and so who I can't stand. Honestly, I wouldn't even need to, I'm pretty much on the mark where others are concerned and they show their own colors in time, I don't need to. Although, the mutual player may well know why I wont rp with this other, founded reasons, so there are no surprises. If that same player eventually breaks with them, it was for their own reasons and what transpired between them.

We love ooc drama. -- NO NO NO we do not! I have always hated the ooc games played by many here. Yes, I have ended up dragged into them and learned along the way. Yes it is hard to avoid of others. Example: One player IMs me about another they are having trouble with whining and complaining and expecting me to do something about it (even said I run this game so I should like it was one of my responsibilities), so I IMed the other and said they should talk. Both then got mad at me and I got blamed then. I wont step in like that anymore, resolve your own problems directly and stop whining to others. In that particular case both were trouble makers ooc and are no longer in HF.  Actually I will eject those that caused ooc problems in drastic ways like having one come on all ready to spend a relaxing night of fun roleplay only to be IMed and harassed by another with their whining, snide remarks, harassing of that player on things about them, trashing others, having that  person then sign off in tears. I ask those kind of players to leave. So.....guess who is outside of Heathfield still spreading their nasty rumors they were done wrong song! Right now, finally, there are NO ooc problems here with the players. Seems I weeded out the nag-weed over time. Its another reason I am picky who comes in here, I don't want such here. My suggestion to anyone blasted with rumors on anyone or any game -- is find out for yourself the truth, no matter how much you think you can trust that person.

I, the player, goes around purposely trying to hurt other players. I just blinked at that rumor for it is so outrageous. First off, even if I had such a mindset, which I don't, where would I have time? I run a game. I play many characters. I take care of the message board. I take care of my webpages and profiles. I come up with and run most of the SLs. I spend my time on my game not ooc vicious games. But, I consider the source where that particular slander came from: One that felt they couldn't compete IC with a character of mine so went ooc to use scare tactics on that other player whose character they wanted, to scared them on me to even rp with me via one of my characters or even any from Heathfield. Amazing. Ironic too for it was one who boasted being trustworthy -- but alluded all these vicious slanders came from another who knew me to support their validity. This very same player who  boasted being honest but spread vicious lies on me the player to gain their own goal. I am finding that most vicious rumors spread by others comes down to one evil -- jealously, which includes the old adage -- sour grapes. Trying to bring down others through vicious slander and lies does not bring you up in esteem, its a falsity. My suggestion to anyone who is plagued by jealously is go concentrate on your own play, character, game, stop wasting energy in a negative way and use it positively instead. You know why Heathfield has been successful? Its because I don't waste my time as rumors would imply but spend it on what I have created.

Side Notes:

I have never been in competition with other games to -- gain numbers, go into others' game rooms to recruit their players (I really find that method un-kosher in the least), buddy up with players ooc of other games in IMs or such to get them to play a character in my game (the attempt to steal players away -- oh yes I know for some approached mine!), get other players that come here of their own accord to leave other games. If a player here also plays in other games or with other players and it dissolved it was their choice to do so, something between them, for the way they were treated as a player. Not me pressuring them. I don't pressure. I don't steal, cheat or lie to get players here. I do have my opinions, based on the actions both ic and ooc of other players in this roleplaying environment, but they are only that -- my opinions. Sometimes those opinions change for the good or bad as things are learned. There are players I would not even bother with for their attitudes and ways. There are characters of others' some of mine do not like IC for things that happened IC. Don't assume "I" take it ooc and just using my character to harass the player via my character. What is amusing for ones accusing such, they are the  very ones that blend ooc to ic and think others must too. I have seen that irony here time and time again of ones accusing others of the very thing they do themselves.

I don't pull the strings of other players here as some have accused. Players here do what they want via their characters. I don't follow players here to keep tabs on them. I don't watch every move they make. I don't spy on anyone, I cannot be bothered to waste my time. I do have a lot of characters around to roleplay when I have time. I do watch others' writing that is enjoyable to watch and may even interact with them if the opportunity presents itself.

There have been *would be friends ooc* that then think they can do anything they want via their characters here that could  potentially harm this environment....it will not be tolerated. Real friends have a healthy respect for others and their writing not to force role-play situations on others and expect them to give way to their wishes using 'friends' as an excuse. One major point insisted upon here is respect for the other writers and their characters. IE: Your storyline gets out of hand and overflows to where one of my characters would realistically step in, they will. Don't think you can start harassing me ooc over it because you didn't get what you wanted. Or, you want this man of your dreams so do anything to trap that man, character getting hurt, hanging on them, badgering them, the list goes on....not tolerated. The main writers here are open to all platonic roleplaying-writing but don't be surprise or take it personally ooc,  if you start wanting more -- they back off.

Rumors:

Because I've grown very tired of actually "stupid" rumors that float around this role-playing environment about me, mostly OOC, I have decided to state my views, standings and experiences here, straight from me. So if your wondering, here is the truth of it.

I have been accused OOC of being "a transvestite, that I play males to "cyber" with unsuspecting females". This spoken ooc in a crowded public room and his followers bobbing there heads in agreement not having a clue. Oh how so very wonderful ::yes, sarcasm:: coming from a mun who doesn't even know me. I told my husband, he had a good laugh over the foolishness and believe me he would know. A "normal" female and wife, mother of four. This brings up a good point about "cyber". Cyber is when two muns decide to have the illusionary "typed sex" here. "I" the mun, personally have never "cybered" and have no interest in such. To me it is writing here as one would a book, the characters are not me and I have no false illusions as such nor need to fill some void in my real life with said illusions. Look at the facts: any author of a book that writes out a love scene of their characters they have created - would be "cybering" with themselves. Makes it laughable doesn't it? It shows me that "some" here make a character and it is "important" that the other mun is of the gender of their character so they can "cyber" through their character, then go with the assumption that is how it is. I say.. "wake up and smell the coffee". Actually they are the dangerous ones for an unsuspecting mun of the opposite character. I rarely even go to a PR room and rarely is a love scene actually typed out, most are just "assumed" when they leave to go to their chambers, and I log off or the other does or both. Those few times in a PR room is then divided to meeting with others on a treaty, meeting with another in a private conversation between the characters that has nothing to do with intimacy, sometimes to talk to a mun, not even any role-play but one can type easier than in an IM if the discussion is to be long. That really looks like the MO on a person here to "cyber" ::mmhmm.. oh yeah!::


Going in the same vein as this - there is a rumor that I played a certain character of Ian (not even of Heathfield) of which I did not, who was actually played by a male, a very good role-player I might add. Now, maybe I should take that as a compliment but the "destruction" of this lie was that the one opposite him, long time ago, was told this rumor and then promptly started "hate rumors" about me. Now, I do play males! ::oh gosh!:: in fact I would venture to say that 90% of the males played here are played by females, certainly not just me. Most of my males were created for SL's without the focus of becoming a couple - to the chagrin of some - in short I can't "win". Anyone who knows me and what males I play.. could probably say honestly.. they are actually hard to get with and for many a good reason. I know there are males that play females too. In fact one of my males got with a female who was played by a male when I first starting playing one. How I even got started to play males was to help another friend out, just I found I could play one well. Which disputes another ooc accusation that "Lahoneee can't rp her way out of a paper bag.".. well, excuse me but if that were so, why have so many wanted to rp with me.. male or female characters and have quite said the opposite? But this statement, I once again consider the source it came from.


Now.. a number of years back another mun, whom at the time I had considered a friend, went after one of my males.. even IM rp'ed to meet him because he had not been in a room. In short, the initiation was not even taken by me, nor would it of had been to be honest. I will rp with anyone via my males and don't feel I have to "tell" who even plays them.. that is the right of anyone here, but when it started to look like this other wanted more than friendship and the rp started to support it.. I actually asked them ooc "Do you care what mun plays this character." I was told "no" and so the rp proceeded. The very next day I get confronted by the mun: "Are you Lahoneee mun" and I said "yes". Well then it came about that it did matter that the male was played by a female and so it was ended. Due to this, and always trying to be careful of the sensitivities of other muns here, that is when I came up with the RPL# to avoid such and protect muns, with different views than mine, and their characters. Now.. if I was one who wanted to put my males with unsuspecting females.. would I have done that? Would I have told the truth even? There are some here that don't tell the truth and even give a male name for the mun but "I" am not one of them.

Now to a pet peeve rumor ::more sarcasm::.. one I've grown really tired of: "don't put your character with one of hers because once you do they will no longer be rp'ed, gone." Well.. excuse me once again for here are some facts: 1. If someone shows an interest in one of my characters.. or even asks me OOC, I give the warming that I do play a few and my time is divided. Especially if that character is a main one of theirs and would want a partner around a lot and needs someone here constant to role-play with. 2. I will make time and I don't just not rp with that person, I'm up for scheduling a convenient time! I don't assume what is going on in a persons RL or when they have time. I do play characters as needed so attention fluctuates otherwise. I will not take one character in an rp with another, drop them, to go get another. That is not fair to anyone. 3. Most of my inactive characters are because the other mun has not been around, usually due to RL situations. Did I take that char from them when they were gone 6 months or more? No. I understood and one reason I have plenty of other chars is so that I don't become dependant here on another to be here to role-play.. and that comes from past experiences.. lessons well learned. I will however consider taking a character from another mun who has not shown in a long time and not given me a reason why they have been gone, they just disappear. 4. My time is not just divided with my characters but I also run this roleplaying environment.. with little to no help. Very few have actually helped me even when they say "If you need any help just let me know." Quite a few of those never did a simple task asked of them. This is not to say none ever did help.. there are a few that have helped and I am grateful to them. I did get use to doing most myself, and I'm not complaining really, just don't offer help if you don't really mean it or have the time.


Here is another "good" rumor: "All the SL's in your group revolve around your characters as the focus".. well, hells bells, get off your duffs and do an SL! For many years I have tried to get others here to run an SL.. even gave out ideas and suggestions they bobbed their heads over.. but did they do them.. NO! I come up with SL's because I don't sit on my duff waiting for others to hand one to me. I don't role-play "at the mercy of others." I'm really tired of "those who don't" having so much negative comments on "those who do." Now.. there are a few here who took the initiative to run an SL.. and gradually a major one as the Douglas'/Tyremoore was presented.. did I say "no".. nope.. even with the complaints of others they would take from the other SL's of ie: The McAndrews.. and guess who they came from.. these complaints.. yes, you got it.. ones who never ran an SL big enough for others to take part. Every SL, especially a major one.. needs its time in the spotlight to become a part and establish itself, so other ones will get pushed slightly or more so to the background initially but the idea is then to bring those back and intertwine them all. The spotlight fluctuating. I don't need to be in the spotlight, nor wish to be. I don't really have as big an ego as some try to make it look. Do I have confidence, yes, do I have independence, yes. Will I take the initiative.. yes. The fact I ran the "Colonies" SL proves it.. I ended up making the SL to start it off, but I got volunteers to play major parts.. those who would.. even then I had to keep stepping in when I would near plea.. please have your character resolve this situation... if nothing happened I would have to take over to keep it moving.

The rumor that in essence "I hold my members hostage here and that they are my puppets" is so far fetched and out in left field.. it just amazes me if anyone with an ounce of intelligence can believe that! Laughable.. yes.. and here is why: No one has a hold over anyone here to "make" them do anything. If someone even implies that of another.. it means they only want to complain and get sympathy from that other.. and don't really want to take their character out. I have never held anyone here and if under normal circumstances they wanted to explore new horizons here.. I gave them my "best" and good luck.. even come and visit, keep in touch. There have been circumstances I have asked some to leave over the years.. but they were ones here to cause trouble constantly.. their goal to destroy. It didn't work. There have been those who left because they believe rumors or just discontent.. I have never stalked them or harassed them. I did find out later others did here.. but I had NEVER asked anyone to do such, that which I don't even do. I don't waste my time worrying on and slandering others.. I have found myself defending myself on a few who would do that to me. I spend my time on what I'm doing. There have been too many unique circumstances to get into all of them, some I had a parting of ways for things that were happening only to resume rp later on as things were worked out. Others I can't rp with at all, some just as couples (one on one basically more obligations to that mun) but no problem "drastically". You will find.. I usually play my chars even with a "mate" in public rooms with all who want to be around. Unlike some "leaders" I'm not off in PR rooms all the time.. exclusive to just one. Yes there are times a "couple" do need their own time away from others but the rp should dictate that and to what avenue. I don't tell muns here how to play their characters, what they are to say to others and I don't take responsibility if they do things wrong. If they do, I would want to know to take care of it (not just personal gripes) but one who constantly chases others out of our rooms for example, makes them feel unwelcome.. blatantly. One of my first rules is that those here are to welcome in strangers. It doesn't mean your character has to like them or become buddy buddy with them... more a courtesy. I totally refuse to take on the responsibility of two visitors not being nice to each other. If they are way out of line they should be asked to leave, if they don't then put them on ignore and it stated ooc.
 

Parting comments:

1. Take rumors with a grain of salt, discard most and if its one that would concern you directly.. go to the source and find out from them. Heed friendly warnings from friends but do make sure and make your own decisions. A real friend should respect that, right or wrong. Sometimes the friends are right and sometimes they are wrong, and sometimes they don't know the whole situation. It is normal to be concerned for your friends. There are some "real" concerns here, there are stalkers, there are ones who have tried to ruin another's RL. This goes beyond role-play.


2. Be wary of anyone dishing out OOC information given them, point is "that" person already has broken trust to even start with. a. It usually only hurts the mun told things to and usually not accurate information. b. Ones who try to spread slander usually have an ulterior motive, obviously to ruin other's relationships, ooc and ic. Ever do the experiment where a group of 20 people are to pass along something said? Person #1 told (whispered) "A sunflower grows in the garden".. and after it is passed down say 20+ people and the last one asked what was said (like a rumor) it has become "There is a huge space project on Mars." As always there are exceptions to the "rule of thumb" there could come a time when ooc information is given that is detrimental to the well being of another mun.. then a hard choice has to be made.. like if you found out a certain person was out to "destroy" the other person's time here, ic and ooc, an all out warfare of sorts. Even trying to form a "gang" to do it. Yes that happens.. sad but true.


3. There is this big "to do" about OOC and IC.. and one should not mix. This is true about the characters directly but.. if a mun is constantly giving you a hell of a time, constant arguments, harassing even about or through other characters they know are yours.. etc.. well.. excuse me once again.. Role-play is suppose to be fun.. and logically how can you role-play with one who is giving your crap ooc but your characters get along? Where can you find the heart in role-playing that character with them? Logic dictates to end that role-play for your own health and stress level. It is NOT what its suppose to be here. Don't take IC to OOC unless it is directed at you OOC.. that person then already broke that rule. If in question of another's motive or especially thoughts.. ask them. A lot of times it is not directed to be mean to the mun. Other times.. it is. Yes.. there are many fine lines.. when in doubt.. do ask.


4. Being the "leader" or "creator" of this group.. does NOT mean I am to take on every little personal gripe as my own to take care of for that person(s). That is an unreasonable expectation and I would not last here if I was crazy enough to do that. Do you realize how many muns.. and with various characters there are here? "so and so's character turned their nose up at mine" Well.. ignore them, ask them why ooc or even ic, or turn your characters nose up back at them.. but.. do take care of it and do get over it. If someone is stalking and harassing you on purpose (IC/OOC).. do come and tell me.. that steps beyond the other, if you don't know how to take care of it yourself.


5. I do make mistakes too.. I try to learn from them. I don't let them stop me, I am human too, and we are all expected to make mistakes, how we learn. Why so many rules and opinions added to my web page. It would be "easy" just to delete all my characters and disappear.. and there were times I was sorely tempted because you begin to wonder why you even try. One of the reasons I never took that route (besides being a wrong way of doing things) is because I know that in spite of a few there are many here who enjoy what I have created and would be sorely disappointed.


6. "Walk softly and carry a big stick" I think this Irish saying has value here.. softly go about your own business and beat off those who would try and ruin it for being fun anymore.

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