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RUMORS AND TRUTHS My standing as a writer here is: For those whom would like to write opposite me, there are a few things to first take into consideration before getting frustrated or angry. My time is shared for a few reasons. I run a game here and usually just do the things to keep it maintained myself, so I know they get done in a timely fashion and if not, no one else to blame. I don't mind. If someone offers to help be certain you have said time to offer, not just good wishes....it is far more frustrating to wait on someone else whom doesn't get around to said offer, than doing something myself. I write with a few players here in various capacities. I find time for my commitments, all one has to do is ask for time if particular time is needed. I try to roleplay with all even if I'm under a character that is with another, you will find me 98% of the time in a public room and not just private. Although situations call for private sessions, especially sessions for storylines (which usually includes a few others), I don't believe in spending all my time off with just one other.
Others here like to roleplay with various other writers too, doesn't have to be one of commitment....it also allows time for all those here to interact with each other. They are not just abandoned to sit in a public room alone because the other writers are all off selfishly to themselves all the time in private ones. So, anyone wishing to write opposite one of my characters has to go with that understanding, time will be made but it will not be an everyday, all day occurrence. If your one that especially has only one character you devote all your time to, the suggestion is to find another writer that is of the same mind and situation. I am not judging viewpoints, I respect other's and expect mine to be respected too. One can always agree to disagree. I have had the situation where one told me my situation was acceptable then wanted more and more time of which I could not give on demand, then became disgruntled...some going as far then to slander over it.
My characters if gotten with anyone don't abandon them just because 'the romance is over' (not getting into ooc reasons some have been). I have perfectly workable situations were certain couples are not played for lengthy times but....I am writing still with the other writers under other characters. So the real question is, which is more important? To write under a certain character or to write with certain other writers? The couples are living the everyday mundane things and not assumed to have abandoned each other. Do not assume if a character of mine is not played in a while, either I have abandoned them or the other player has abandoned me. Although, more often if such were the case, mine were abandoned. If I feel that is the case (at least in the past, not now with the writers I write with), I move my character on if I wish to continue playing them.
For me it is writing, to explore various types of characters in this process. I am not here to become someone's exclusive partner. I am here to write with all and some more selectively (of like mind in this environment). I have a lot of characters, yes I do! There are a few reasons for this and the main one is: many were developed as an ongoing development of this game I created. It adds to its history. I play characters as needed or the mood so inclines. Some you might not see for awhile and then back again. Some are only taken out as needed for storylines. Most of these characters are single and remain thus so they are not committed and expected to play. There is reasoning behind my 'madness'. Any writer of books has new heroes and heroines to explore in new stories....mine are ones that just add to Heathfield's rich history. Now, sometimes these characters do end up with committed with another, but one that agrees and has a like standpoint.
Now, the only problem I do have is playing characters and others gain an interest in them as a possible 'mate'. I don't feel I need to go around broadcasting every character I play to anyone whom even looks at them. Way to figure it out (and for other writers here whom write under the same standings as me, there are a few in this game whom play many) is a character that shows no more interest than platonic interaction (even if some teasing is involved). A character that is here sporadically, usually is played by one that plays a few. There is no reason not to interact and have a good time with them when here....that's the idea of them. To 'want more'....remember comes on your end, not necessarily theirs so don't blame them if they are not fulfilling what you wish to happen or be. If one of mine gains an interest, then I would talk to the player ooc on my situation or at least to show whom does play the character and see if it is feasible or best avoided.
Even with the discrepancies of OOC vs. IC....OOC does have its place where IC is concerned. I personally will not place my character with another's that I cannot get along with the player (even if IC the characters get along) or that player constantly then harasses me over time, other characters I play and time spent there, needing a lot of attention, wont play their character unless mine is around ...the list could go on..... I will just not role-play in a 'committed' way with such players. I don't need harassment here over writing and my time. I do not belong to anyone here. No one *owns* another here nor their time. I do have a commitment to this game I created and that will always come first. I do have a commitment to other writers I place characters with. Recent Rumors... The players here play a multitude of characters both male and female -- Yes they do! The reason for this is as stated above, we are writers here and writers keep exploring challenges in the writing field by trying various different kinds of characters. I do not play just one character as some kind of extended life here, nor with just one other writer in the same idea. I also don't throw away my creations even if not played all the time. I don't feel I need to play out the mundane of life as if living that too via my character. They are always there to take out and refresh or as needed for an SL that comes up. For me, many of mine were created for SLs and accumulated over the years. Most of mine are single and I have no goals to get them with others. Those I am committed to now have the same views, if more than one is here we usually play non committed characters in a group out instead of me off with just one and the others abandoned. I make time for all in being around live under one of my characters even if some don't know they are mine in particular. I make time for all in general and in particular. If someone wants a session in particular, time will be arranged. I don't go chasing down players to commit them to something after running the idea by them. I leave it up to them after that point. I push the buttons and pull the strings of players here -- Ick! No I don't. I do not claim responsibility for others' actions, stop trying to blame me! Ask them instead. There have been times another player did something to say protect one of mine, as an example idea, but if so it was purely a decision of their own. Another example: I may not like a player another player I roleplay with writes with too. I have never asked them to stop writing with this other or make such demands like I wont continue with them if they continue to write with so and so who I can't stand. Honestly, I wouldn't even need to, I'm pretty much on the mark where others are concerned and they show their own colors in time, I don't need to. Although, the mutual player may well know why I wont rp with this other, founded reasons, so there are no surprises. If that same player eventually breaks with them, it was for their own reasons and what transpired between them. We love ooc drama. -- NO NO NO we do not! I have always hated the ooc games played by many here. Yes, I have ended up dragged into them and learned along the way. Yes it is hard to avoid of others. Example: One player IMs me about another they are having trouble with whining and complaining and expecting me to do something about it (even said I run this game so I should like it was one of my responsibilities), so I IMed the other and said they should talk. Both then got mad at me and I got blamed then. I wont step in like that anymore, resolve your own problems directly and stop whining to others. In that particular case both were trouble makers ooc and are no longer in HF. Actually I will eject those that caused ooc problems in drastic ways like having one come on all ready to spend a relaxing night of fun roleplay only to be IMed and harassed by another with their whining, snide remarks, harassing of that player on things about them, trashing others, having that person then sign off in tears. I ask those kind of players to leave. So.....guess who is outside of Heathfield still spreading their nasty rumors they were done wrong song! Right now, finally, there are NO ooc problems here with the players. Seems I weeded out the nag-weed over time. Its another reason I am picky who comes in here, I don't want such here. My suggestion to anyone blasted with rumors on anyone or any game -- is find out for yourself the truth, no matter how much you think you can trust that person. I, the player, goes around purposely trying to hurt other players. I just blinked at that rumor for it is so outrageous. First off, even if I had such a mindset, which I don't, where would I have time? I run a game. I play many characters. I take care of the message board. I take care of my webpages and profiles. I come up with and run most of the SLs. I spend my time on my game not ooc vicious games. But, I consider the source where that particular slander came from: One that felt they couldn't compete IC with a character of mine so went ooc to use scare tactics on that other player whose character they wanted, to scared them on me to even rp with me via one of my characters or even any from Heathfield. Amazing. Ironic too for it was one who boasted being trustworthy -- but alluded all these vicious slanders came from another who knew me to support their validity. This very same player who boasted being honest but spread vicious lies on me the player to gain their own goal. I am finding that most vicious rumors spread by others comes down to one evil -- jealously, which includes the old adage -- sour grapes. Trying to bring down others through vicious slander and lies does not bring you up in esteem, its a falsity. My suggestion to anyone who is plagued by jealously is go concentrate on your own play, character, game, stop wasting energy in a negative way and use it positively instead. You know why Heathfield has been successful? Its because I don't waste my time as rumors would imply but spend it on what I have created. Side Notes: I have never been in competition with other games to -- gain numbers, go into others' game rooms to recruit their players (I really find that method un-kosher in the least), buddy up with players ooc of other games in IMs or such to get them to play a character in my game (the attempt to steal players away -- oh yes I know for some approached mine!), get other players that come here of their own accord to leave other games. If a player here also plays in other games or with other players and it dissolved it was their choice to do so, something between them, for the way they were treated as a player. Not me pressuring them. I don't pressure. I don't steal, cheat or lie to get players here. I do have my opinions, based on the actions both ic and ooc of other players in this roleplaying environment, but they are only that -- my opinions. Sometimes those opinions change for the good or bad as things are learned. There are players I would not even bother with for their attitudes and ways. There are characters of others' some of mine do not like IC for things that happened IC. Don't assume "I" take it ooc and just using my character to harass the player via my character. What is amusing for ones accusing such, they are the very ones that blend ooc to ic and think others must too. I have seen that irony here time and time again of ones accusing others of the very thing they do themselves. I don't pull the strings of other players here as some have accused. Players here do what they want via their characters. I don't follow players here to keep tabs on them. I don't watch every move they make. I don't spy on anyone, I cannot be bothered to waste my time. I do have a lot of characters around to roleplay when I have time. I do watch others' writing that is enjoyable to watch and may even interact with them if the opportunity presents itself. There have been *would be friends ooc* that then think they can do anything they want via their characters here that could potentially harm this environment....it will not be tolerated. Real friends have a healthy respect for others and their writing not to force role-play situations on others and expect them to give way to their wishes using 'friends' as an excuse. One major point insisted upon here is respect for the other writers and their characters. IE: Your storyline gets out of hand and overflows to where one of my characters would realistically step in, they will. Don't think you can start harassing me ooc over it because you didn't get what you wanted. Or, you want this man of your dreams so do anything to trap that man, character getting hurt, hanging on them, badgering them, the list goes on....not tolerated. The main writers here are open to all platonic roleplaying-writing but don't be surprise or take it personally ooc, if you start wanting more -- they back off. Rumors: Because I've grown very tired of actually "stupid" rumors that float around this
role-playing environment about me, mostly OOC, I have decided to state my views, standings and experiences here, straight from me. So if your wondering, here is the truth of it. 1. Take rumors with a grain of salt, discard most and if its one that would concern you directly.. go to the source and find out from them. Heed friendly warnings from friends but do make sure and make your own decisions. A real friend should respect that, right or wrong. Sometimes the friends are right and sometimes they are wrong, and sometimes they don't know the whole situation. It is normal to be concerned for your friends. There are some "real" concerns here, there are stalkers, there are ones who have tried to ruin another's RL. This goes beyond role-play.
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